Everyone dreams about their wedding day – it’s meant to be your big day! But when it’s finally time to get off the guest list and start planning your own, even those who prepare the most can succumb to the stresses that follow suit with it all. Here are a few hints and tips to beat the wedding bell blues and get hitched without a hitch..
Remember in school, when you had to write a story and your teacher would ask you to consider the 5 W’s? Who? What? When? Where? and Why? And then remember that what we learn in school is invaluable, right? Asking yourself these simple questions in regards to many aspects in your plan can help you come to a decision that you’re absolutely sure of and this is how it breaks down:
Who?
As daunting of a task as it is, knowing exactly who you want and where is the best way to start. Making a list of all guests is vital and if done early on in the plan can help you out of many sticky situations. Think about it, once you know how many to expect you can decide on many other things almost instantaneously. Plus ones for everyone? Sure, we can afford to double the amount of guests at the reception.. and vice versa. Knowing the numbers can be handy, even when scouting locations and venues. Imagine having your hopes set on a venue that is just a bit too small to hold all your guests? Knowing beforehand how many are due to attend cuts that out and allows you take more control over where to look.
What?
This one is simple. What do you want at the wedding? Again, list everything down. Seeing your wishlist in full is a big help in identifying any unnecessary choices. Do you really need the fire dancers?
Just like the guest list, knowing exactly what you want before asking makes everything easier. And, done sooner rather than later leaves you with more time to focus on things outside the world of weddings.
When?
Keeping things simple yet again, ask yourself ‘When do I want to get married?’
However, with this you don’t need to be entirely specific. Narrow yourself down to at least a month. Once you’ve gathered your lists you’ll be able to approach any venue. And, having almost everything decided on leaves more room for date debating.
“So, you’re looking to get married in July?”
“Yes.”
“How does the first Saturday sound?”
And that’s all she wrote, because that’s all that needed to be. Don’t like the sound of that Saturday? Say so. This is your day, remember.
Where?
In an ideal world, yes this would go hand-in-hand with the date decision. But being ideal means hassles and wasting time. Having a rough date in mind allows you to approach venues with confidence. Knowing whether they can accommodate your Summer wedding or not means less time hassling the venue. This means you get more time to look for a better fit. But because you know so much about your wedding already, being able to narrows down your venues is a lot easier.
And, finally.. Why?
This one is simple. Asking why after every decision is made will help you either cement the trust you have in it, or waiver it into something you don’t actually want.
There are many other things to consider when trying to plan your wedding on top of everything else that life throws at us. So, here are a few more things to consider for yourself and your partner when planning your wedding day..
Don’t be afraid to delegate – just don’t let the power rush to your head. This is your big day. Your friends and family should only be too glad to help out with the odd errand.
All in all, planning any event is a stressful ordeal. Your wedding day has significance. Everyone involved in the organisation will undoubtedly experience some form of stress leading up to the day.
Under immense pressure and stress, any relationship can take strain and it can be easy to lose touch with your partner during these times. Take time out from both your daily life and wedding-centric days to just be together. Don’t let the spark that brought you two this close together fizzle out during such a crucial time for the both of you.
No matter how hard you try, the intensity will get worse as the day draws nearer. And to that I say, worry not. Don’t spend too much time dwelling on the small things. At the end of the day, you’ll be marrying the love of your life. Isn’t that the ultimate goal?Â
Bonus Tip: Appoint a Fireman
Guests who are stuck at the airport or lost en route to the ceremony site should be able to ask someone for assistance – but that someone should not be you. Add a footnote to your invites, offering a willing friend or family member’s number to call on the day if anything should go awry and let them douse the fire.
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